Proverbs 20:22 "Say not thou, I will recompense evil; but wait on the Lord, and he shall save thee."
The answer to this question is....no!
It is in our human nature to want to get even with those who do us or someone we love wrong. That is why a person has the tendency to hit, kick, lash out in word or in deed.
To recompense means to compensate; to make return of an equivalent for any thing given, done or suffered; as to recompense a person for services; for fidelity or for sacrifices of time, for loss of damage.
The Bible does not teach us to get even with those who wrong us. The best way to get even with someone is to just leave it up to the Lord to take care of things. No matter how right we think we are it is never right to get even. The Bible tells us what to do with those who wrong us in Romans 12:20-21. "Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good."
When someone does us (or someone we love) wrong we should do the opposite with them. We are to return kindness for their wrong-doing. Hebrews 10:30 "For we know him that hath said, Vengeance belongeth unto me, I will recompense, saith the Lord. And again, The Lord shall judge his people." It is never easy to seemingly let the person get away with what they have done. But you can rest assured that they won't. God will protect His children just as a mother or father will protect their children.
This very thing is something that God is teaching me right now in my life. There is someone who has...and continues to "attack" members of my family. This person has lied to...stolen from and said things about certain members of my family. Don't you think I want nothing more than to get even with this person? Of course I do...in my spirit. But God tells me in His Word that He will take care of everything. Because of that I must continue to love this person (although it is very hard to) and pray for them. This is a tough course to go through and I can only pray for strength and wisdom in dealing with this person. Once this course is completed I can only pray that I pass the test and look back on it and see that God was glorified in me and in the situation.
So the next time you (or someone in your family) are wronged...remember that God says "Vengeance belongeth unto me, I will recompense." Don't get even...give that person to God and let Him take care of everything.