I Thessalonians 5:22 "Abstain from all appearance of evil."
It is so disturbing to see parents flirt with sin and evil and then they wonder why their children get caught up in the things of this world. Mom and Dad...you may think you're able to "handle" being around and even dabbling with some sin but I'm here to tell you that no one is so strong as to not be taken in by that sin. What's worse is the kids see the parents around it or doing it and they get the mindset that if Momma and Daddy can handle it so can they. I'm here to tell you that they will go down a path of destruction that originally started with Momma and Daddy. The ungodly influence of Hollywood and the wickedness of the worldly music will have a negative effect on our children. We need to be aware of that.
We as parents are to set the standard for our children. How can we teach our children what is anti-God and them follow that if we as parents don't abstain from it. The fault lies with us!!
We're inconsistent in what we say. We tell them that what was wrong to do before is now okay. And our kids will call us on it too. We're inconsistent with one child and the siblings will say "I thought we couldn't do that". Then the parent is left to come up with some explanation of justifying why they changed their mind about that thing. Don't you think this confuses our kids? We know who the author of confusion is too. I Corinthians 14:33 says "God is not the author of confusion..." If God is not the author of confusion then it is safe to assume that it has to be the devil. The devil is out to destroy. So if it confuses...you know something is wrong. It's not worth it for the parents to not stay committed to the things that we know to being wrong and abstain from them. If we want and expect our kids to abstain from them...we as parents should set the example and abstain.
Our kids need to see us reading our Bible and praying. They need to know by our example the things they need to be doing and also those things we should abstain from.
May God help us know and realize that we can be the influence that will either help make or help destroy our children for the cause of Christ. Our children are watching us and listening to how we talk and how we respond to different situations.
"Abstain from ALL APPEARANCE of evil." A rule I have taught my kids is when in doubt....don't. It would do us parents good to adopt this same philosophy. And also to remember those things that are anti-God and know that when temptation comes our way to indulge in things that are wrong that our children are watching us and we are setting ourselves and our children up for disaster. Is it worth it to you?